my husband is a landscaper and we recently moved to a new area. he has always worked with men in the 28 years weve been married. he has hooked up with a designer who is very attractive and **** and rich. i’m not used to him being around women, especially the same one all the time. he took her to lunch and lied to me about it because he says i would have been mad. (he’s right) now he’s flying on the female homeowner’s private jet with the designer, the homeowner and another masonry guy. (to buy the materials for the job). he claims he can not get out of it and it will be a day trip. i feel so sad, empty and excluded from his life.
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Dont be,it business and thats how it is sometimes!
Is your marriage so shaky that one woman leaves you with no confidence in it? Surely you’ve trusted your husband not to cheat on you all this time that one woman, no matter how beautiful or rich, isn’t going to make a difference now. If he loves you, he loves you and that’s that. Otherwise, be honest with him and tell him how you feel.
As Ed says Be Afraid Be very Afraid.
keep an eye on him, but dont let that make you loose your calm, always logically analyse stuff and dont be misguided by your own fears.
you poor thing. you are in a tough situation. you need to have a long talk with your husband and spill your guts to him. let him know exactly how you are feeling. you need to spend some quality time with him when he is home if you are feeling excluded from his life. has he ever cheated in the past? there isn’t much you can do except talk to him. communication is always the key in my opinion. good luck!
Leave him alone… your emptiness will be fulfill in other ways. Find a family lawyer who is a male not married also around your age. Try asking the lawyer to fake it with you to have your husband attention. Do the same go out to dinner and lunch with him (lawyer). So that way just in case if the lawyer can be your witness. I made it up, just be creative, do the same thing he’s treating you. Time to fight back for your love one.
The big question is do you trust him?
I will throw this scenario out there because it’s true and somewhat similar.
I had a friend who was married to this lady. He ended up taking another co-worker out to lunch for the co-wokers birthday. Keep in mind this is before they were even married. He never told his wife and she later found out. She got upset because he and this particular co-worker used to date. Later in the marriage…not even a year later, he began sleeping with this same co-worker and she ended up pregnant hence the end of the marriage.
So you see, your situation can go either way. It’s all about what you think. He was extremely wrong to lie about the lunch. Whether you would get upset or not, lieing is not acceptable and should not be tolerated. Plus, I’m sure you are even more upset knowing that he lied. But you also have to keep in mind that this woman might not even be interested in your husband. You are not used to him working around females but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen and how many times has it happened and he just never told you.
Also, I’m sure he can get out of it…he just might not want to.
Oh he is going to bang her,, since he lied to you about the lunch,, trust me. if i went to lunch with a beautiful woman i would call my wife while I am having lunch and tell her where I am, that way every one knows their limit. but if i want to bang the bountiful woman then i would keep it a secrete. do you really think you would have gotten mad if he had called you while having lunch with this woman and told you what he is doing and at the end told you he loved you and hanged up? I don’t think so, so be sure , he is going to bang her.
Relationships are supposed to be based on trust???? Not on the business associate your husband travels with ????
And about the lying part. I dont wanna be macha mucho or anything but to me it seems like you’ve been giving him a hard time with the every other woman he meets. He lied coz he loves you a lot and he doesnt want to go into a fight with you for no apparent reason at all.
Trust. Remember that word. 28 years of marriage. Trust.
The immediate stereotypical response is: Trust him. Don’t worry. You have something she doesn’t have: HIM and a long marriage. It’s business and he is inevitably going to be around women. Talk to him about how you feel. Let him know you’re not comfortable with it. Talk it out, find ways to rekindle your marriage. Find some hobbies that are independent of him.
My actual response: He’s lied once no matter the reason. Lying is disrespectful and insults your intelligence. It makes you automatically suspicious because you’re trust has been trampled on. Tell him, Hey look Im not an idiot and Ill be damned if you ever lie to me again.
well being married that long, you must have a good trusting relationship! but just because he lied about lunch, doesnt mean there is anything between them.
Rather than jump on him about this lady, why not, ask him to lunch,or dinner, and ask for the designer to come as well. you’ll get to know her a little better, and feel better about the situation as well.
Become your husbands’ business partner. If it’s really business and a private jet, doesn’t cost any more for you to go too!
His lying is not good at all. Make sure he knows his new partner (you!) will not stand for any more of that.
There is no sin in being rich or attractive. But such people tend to believe they can have what they want.
Have you met this person? As an active partner in your family business you can make the phone calls and organize the papers at the meetings. Rich contacts are not to be wasted, especially when just starting out in a new area.
This is a great opportunity! Your husband is out there in the world killing something to bring home to eat. Support him! Do everything you can to help, which happens to put you at his side when dealing with the customers.
don’t mess your life with “dramas”. have faith and trust your husband. trust is the key to all marriages, rem’?
i try to understand what you want to ask . i hope it will right , frist of all you must to ask your self that you still love him or not ? if yes that try to open your heart to him , shear with him help him and give him to know how about your feeling and be strong to belive on him .
ask him directly to know what about your feeling to not sure with now . tell him to help you and same time try to have some romantic togeter .
I can tell you one thing from experience-you can push people into affairs(flings) by lack of trust and jealousy, it gets old, very quickly. Is there anything else going on in your marriage to validate him being promiscuous after 28 years? If not, and it’s just one pretty business partner, why are you worried enough to ask strangers for help with a 28 year marriage? You said there is another guy going with them, do you think it will also be a threesome, or that is another lie? There’s two sides to every plate no matter how thin it is, it just doesn’t seem like you have enough to be concerned. If nothing else is there, use this nervous energy to motivate you into spicing your marriage back up, do some things you used to do together.
You need to examine why you feel so sad, empty and excluded from his life simply because he is going on a one day business trip. Also, it sounds like this customer has a LOT of money which is going to mean a big payday for you and your husband. Instead of looking for negatives, start looking at things in a positive light, which might be a good idea for other aspects of your life/marriage too.
Why are you feeling sad?don’t be.Bcoz,you said that the “lady” is rich and attractive.WHY,would you think that she will be attracted to your husband?are you sure of that?She maybe has an equally rich and attractive single boyfriend.Why would she wants your husband?just think of that.Dont feel sad.I’m sure,it’s purely business on her part.
